How to have a happy Wedding Day
- Planned to position the wedding cake far away from walls and exit signs?
- Assigned a friend to have a hot towel ready before you cut the cake?
- Planned something fun for your departure?
- Planned to give a tip, gratuity or gift to your wedding day vendors (photohrapher, videographer, DJ, coordinator, etc)?
- Provided a timeline of the days events to family and wedding day vendors?
- Packed emergency items: water, bobby pins, small sewing kit, bleach pen, breath mints, etc?
- Packed a Tupperware to carry the top of your cake home in?
Here is some great advice from a few of my brides and grooms and associates that have been there… and from me as well. “If I could go back and give wedding advice and do anything differently, it would be………..”
BEFORE THE WEDDING
FOLLOW THE PLAN
“If there are any extraordinary moments planned for the day, let the photographer / videography know so they can capture it before it’s all over.” (Monica, San Diego)
“Many key moments can be tainted because of room set up. Plan on cutting the cake and tossing the bouquet far away from a wall and especially away from exit signs. I can’t tell you how many cake cutting pictures are distracted because of the EXIT sign.” (Eric Richards)
“Rather than having the cake off in a corner, plan on using the cake as a focal point in the center of the room; it will look great!” (Eric Richards)
“Consider packing some emergency items: A few granola bars and water, Bobby pins, small sewing kit, Downy wrinkle-releaser, bleach pen (Tide To Go), sunscreen, lipgloss” (Amanda, Wellsville, UT)
ON THE WEDDING DAY
DAD GUM IT!
“Gum chewing does keep the breath fresh, but it can look terrible in photos; go for a mint or mouthwash” (www.weddingwire.com)
“Most brides tend to feel a need to hold to bouquet up close to their upper torso, with their elbow at a 90 degree angle; while its a natural occurrence, this positioning of flowers has ruined many a shots. Simply let your arm relax and hold your bouquet down to the side of your body, straight armed, near your hip” (Chris, Photographer)
“Use the restroom before you put the dress on. When you have to use the restroom AFTER the dress is on, face the tank. Tummy to the tank keeps the train out of the way” (Melissa, San Diego, CA)
ROLL WITH IT
“You have done all the planning you possibly can and have given all the assignments out and everything is supposed to be perfect, bit it won’t. The only way people will know it wasn’t perfect is your reaction. Laugh it off and get a picture of it! It will provide memories and laughter for years to come” (Jezebel, San Mateo, CA)
A DIRTY LITTLE SECRET
“Despite a photographer, videographer, mother, sisters and nieces all trying to look out for it…your dress is going to get dirty. It is a white dress being worn in a dirty world, it’s going to get dirty. Just accept it now and you won’t be disappointed later. Most of the dirt can be cleaned either before the reception or after your wedding day; just relax and let the day unfold and don’t get too concerned about dirt – a few of my pics were ruined by people fussing to keep my dress spotless.” (Kimberly, Santa Clarita, CA)
“Have one of your friends get a towel with hot water ready before your cut the cake. That frosting so SO sticky and my napkin just stuck to my face. I read somewhere that a hot towel works best and my friend did that at her wedding at it was so nice.” (Yvonne, Park City, Utah)
LEAVE IN STYLE
“Plan on leaving in your dress and tux! It looks AMAZING in pictures!!!” (Susan, Las Vegas, NV)
AFTER THE WEDDING
A SAD FACT
“Please keep in mind that with digital SLRs and Compact Flash media that a few sequences in a hundred will not be saved properly onto our cards and cannot be salvaged; so, if a particular shot is missing from the final portoflio, let me know which it is and I’ll see if I have it, but more than likely, it was a card error and the shot didn’t save correctly upon capture. The good news is that your family and friends were all there and it was a great day, regardless” (Eric Richards)
GRATUITIES AND TIPS
“Because of the service–oriented nature photography and floral arranging and catering, etc., most clients offer a tip or gift of some sort. While cash is always appreciated, simple gift certificates are very kind and welcomed most warmly” (www.weddingwire.com)
“Personally, I think a cash tip or gift certificate is very kind. I am a chocoholic, so anything chocolate works if you’d like to tip that way! :)!” (Eric Richards)
ABOVE ALL ELSE…
RELAX AND ENJOY!
“Rarely do weddings go as planned; the best weddings have occurred when brides and grooms relax and try their best to happily weather the storms that may come. Remember that bad weather makes good photos; there’s no point stressing the things we cannot change. This will only happen once so enjoy it!” (Dani, Riverton, Utah)
ESPECIALLY FOR LDS SEALINGS
LDS CARS and KEYS. For LDS Temple sealings, it’s important to coordinate rides beforehand. Assign someone to grab your belongings that are inside the temple and take them to your car for you; make sure parents know that you and your spouse have arranged a ride from the temple to the luncheon/reception before-hand.
LDS DRESS CODES. Some temples ask to not have your family dress in bridesmaid or groomsmen outfits; this is to ensure flow at the temple and also prevents people from wearing distracting outfits to the sacred sealing; because I shoot family groups very quickly, my advice, hands down, is to have people dress for the temple. Have those that will attend the sealing change into their wedding party gear just after the sealing and there will be no problems whatsoever in keeping with the spirit of the temple grounds. If I could show you a portfolio of a family that had people dress up for the temple and those that did not, you would be amazed at the difference that the dressed looks make. It’s classy and elegant, a perfect reflection of the temple.
LDS FAMILY SHOTS. Choose to do family portraits either at the temple or at the reception, but preferably not at both. In all my years of shooting weddings, rarely have I had an enlargement of a family photo; I will document the day and capture the family, but having two sessions for family imaging really is a bit of overkill. As well, please realize that I will do quite a few family groupings, but I may miss some your personal list if they are not communicated beforehand.